feeling like a victim

Q:I have just come to the realization that I'm addicted to feeling like a victim. I would like to know how I can truly overcome this addiction and empower myself.

A:Please keep in mind that in some cases people have to seek professional help for serious emotional issues. But if your situation isn't too severe then this will help.

You might want to read the answer to the question that I answered before yours: "How do you take control of your emotions instead of letting your emotions take control of you?" The answer to that question will help you get started because the first thing that you want do is figure out what the positive intent is.

Once you know the positive intentions of the emotions that you are experiencing, then you want uncover the secondary gain. In other words, what are you gaining from feeling and behaving the way you do?

It has been said that all behavior is useful in some context. Stop and think about that. You are benefiting in some manner as a result of being the victim. For example some people the crave the attention and "pat on the back" that they get from being the victim. If you have trouble figuring out what the secondary gain is email me. speaker [at] alduncan.net

You must know what the secondary gain is because a change in behavior will not last unless the secondary gain is maintained. Find a different way to achieve the secondary gain and it will be easier for you to let go of feeling like a victim.

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